Julianne Harvey

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Rewriting the Story

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 30, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Do you ever have one of those days when you just feel small? Less than, inadequate, not good enough? I had one recently and it's as if you've got a 50 pound bag of flour crushing your chest all day.


I know now that these messages are old and unhealthy. What we tell ourselves becomes the story we live out. We have the power to change the quality of our day with a rewrite of the mental programming we have allowed to take over, but before we...

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Summer Days

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 23, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I have trouble moving from one season of life into another. Like most of the planet, I look forward to summer for heat, leisure, fun with the kids and a more relaxed schedule without lessons or regular school routines.


It's the transition between the two things that stresses me out. This year, I tried mentally preparing for the kids to be out of school a few weeks ago, to give myself more time to adjust. I think it helped, but I still fee...

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Today is a Day for Sadness

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 18, 2015 at 4:30 PM Comments comments (0)

Today is a day for sadness. For feeling all of that helpless rage that our world is such a broken, hate-filled, nonsensical place.


We must name this unifying grief. It's important for each person to own their hidden prejudices before more mass shootings occur, like yesterday's church tragedy in Charleston. I'll start. I'm angry at the narrow-minded bigotry that...

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We All Mess Up

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 16, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

We can heal some of our childhood wounds through parenting our own kids. It's never an easy process, as it will bring up pain, shame, fear and confusion (or a heady mix of these), but we cannot recover from what we refuse to acknowledge. It just goes underground and interferes in ways we cannot foresee or control.


My kids had a recital this weekend. Ava has been singing for five years and William has been taking piano lessons since Septem...

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A Graduation Instead of a Divorce

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 10, 2015 at 2:10 AM Comments comments (0)

This week, I listened to this conversation between Lewis Howes and one of my life heroes Rob Bell, called How to Practice and Understand Faith and Spirituality. The whole thing is inspiring, but around the 20 minute mark, Bell says, "Most people do a divorce instead of a graduation - they stay too long."


I love this phrase. As soon as I heard it, I recognized it ...

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Permanent Transformations

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 2, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

If I were God's west coast rep (to quote the brilliant Anne Lamott), I would design the human condition so that the moment we understood something in our brain was the same second that we knew it to be true in our soul.


Unfortunately, life does not work like this. We can have all the epiphanies we want, but until we work it out through our actual experience, that flash of insight in our mind doesn't transform our day-to-day existence. We ...

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The Trouble with Forgiveness

Posted by Julianne Harvey on May 26, 2015 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (0)

This Duggar mess has the entire world in an uproar, and rightly so. Each new snippet of information seems worse than the last. My blood has been on a slow boil that's almost reached its breaking point. I long to howl at the moon; to take down every entitled male who believes that the story is all about him because he's been steeped in patriarchy since the day he was born.


I came from the type of Christian culture that the Duggar family h...

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Integrating

Posted by Julianne Harvey on May 20, 2015 at 2:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Like Don Draper in Sunday's Mad Men series finale, all of us must one day learn to integrate the disparate parts of ourselves. This involves coming to terms with our past: the versions of our personalities we have now upgraded or discarded, the things we cannot control, the gulf between who we are and who we want to be.


I'm not sure why I resisted this for so long. Maybe because I just wasn't ready to let go of the sheer injustice ...

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Words in the Forest

Posted by Julianne Harvey on May 12, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I am walking on a secluded trail, deep in the forest. I look up to see the tops of the trees swaying in the cool breeze. The leaves shudder and rearrange themselves. Each one appears impossibly green against the blue of the sky, broken up only by clouds as light as whipped cream, moving lazily ahead of me toward the horizon.


It's quiet. I hear the sound of my footsteps, the rustle of the wind, and a small hint of faraway birdsong. My mind...

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Crossing the Finish Line

Posted by Julianne Harvey on May 5, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

This weekend I went to a friend's house for a session with a psychic medium. I went because I wanted to see what she did and to decide for myself how valuable or offensive it might be.


I grew up in a conservative Christian environment with a thick layer of fear and secrecy around anything labelled "spiritual" or "mystical".


The further I've moved from the structure of my childhood religion (recently...

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