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The In-Between Time

Posted by Julianne Harvey on December 16, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm learning to make peace with the interminable waiting zone - the gap between where I am and where I want to be. It's slow and frustrating work, coming to terms with the unavoidable truth that I must not be ready yet for the next step, even though I think I am.


Every one of us stares down this reality on a daily basis. Why is it that sometimes the space between your dream and your reality provides inspiration and hope, and other times ...

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Grief

Posted by Julianne Harvey on December 9, 2014 at 3:30 PM Comments comments (0)

Growth has a price tag. Nothing worth having in this life is free. We end up too far away from certain people and experiences from our past, and we have no choice but to come to terms with the fact that we can't go back.


Grief washes over us when we least expect it, knocking us to our knees and causing us to gasp for breath. I could do without this, as it interrupts my tidy, organized existence. Like most people, I hate to feel lost, alon...

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Mind/Soul Battle

Posted by Julianne Harvey on December 2, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Every day, I struggle with the necessity of surrender. It becomes a battle between my mind, where all my fear and anxiety resides, and my soul, which instinctively knows that letting go of my perceptions and expectations will bring peace and freedom.


My mind, trained in a lifetime of bad habits involving control, worry and people-pleasing, gets me in trouble every damn time. It whispers garbage to me all day long: "You are not good enough...

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Yes Please & No Thanks

Posted by Julianne Harvey on November 25, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I just finished Amy Poehler's terrific new memoir, Yes Please, and I felt profoundly moved by her ideas around saying "yes please" to as many things as possible.


At the Oprah weekend in Seattle, this concept was phrased as "I can". Learning to say "I can" is one of the greatest lessons of my life, especially because I spent so many years using "I can't" as my default response.


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Disconnect from the Outcome

Posted by Julianne Harvey on November 18, 2014 at 9:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Boy, when we get chances to practice a new skill, we really get a lot of opportunities to try out what we are learning. It's horrible. It's uncomfortable. It tips us headfirst into the bottomless hole of vulnerability. And eventually, it ends up to be the greatest gift possible.


I went to Seattle last weekend for Oprah's The Life You Want tour. I gathered up a handful of girlfriends, organized accommodation...

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Showing Up

Posted by Julianne Harvey on November 10, 2014 at 9:35 AM Comments comments (0)

"I'm finally showing up in my own life." I said this to a group of friends the other day, and as I continue to mill it over in my mind, I'm amazed by how profoundly this statement has impacted me. 


When we go through the motions of being alive, but we aren't actually engaged in the minute-to-minute awareness required to be present and plugged-in, we miss out on the vital essence of humanity. Now that I have moved from fear and people...

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Turtleball

Posted by Julianne Harvey on November 4, 2014 at 8:30 AM Comments comments (0)

When my eight-year-old son jumps into a pool, one of his favourite poses is the Turtleball. He runs and leaps, shrieking, "Turtleball!" as loud as possible, his scrawny arms wrapped around his equally spindly legs. He sinks down, then gently bobs to the surface of the water, his back rounded like a turtle's shell.


My instinct is to become a Turtleball when someone hurts me (or more accurately, when I perceive that I've been offended in so...

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Expectations

Posted by Julianne Harvey on October 28, 2014 at 9:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Expectations are tricky things. We all have them - to be human means to expect something at one time or another - but I believe there is a strong correlation between happiness and lowered expectations so I am determined to keep moving in this direction.


I wish it wasn't so damn hard. I spent way too many years of my life forecasting end results so not doing this leaves me feeling unmoored. But I know it's healthier to take it as it comes ...

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A Need to Grow

Posted by Julianne Harvey on October 21, 2014 at 9:30 AM Comments comments (0)

The right to change and evolve is one every human naturally possesses. The trouble comes when some of our relationships are not flexible enough to embrace these differences.


All sorts of reasons exist for this refusal to accept growth in another person. In my experience, I have seen that when someone feels threatened or uncomfortable because I am now different, they push back by applying pressure for me to return to the way I used to beha...

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Full Circle

Posted by Julianne Harvey on October 14, 2014 at 8:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Sometimes in this life, we get a chance to come full circle in an area of our experience, and take the opportunity to measure just how far we have come. I am having one of those rare times this week, on the stunning island of Maui.


Exactly seven years ago Jason and I came here for his work reward trip, to the same resort. Back then I was an entirely different person - living with a variety of masks in place to hide my true identity from m...

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