Julianne Harvey



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Charting A New Course

Posted by Julianne Harvey on September 30, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Over the summer, I made some tough decisions about church. Since I was a young child, I've anchored my spiritual experience around Sunday morning church attendance. It was a non-negotiable prerequisite in the evangelical Christian world I grew up in.

Recognizing that I have choices has been the greatest discovery of my life to this point. I want to tattoo those three liberating words across my forehead so I see them in the mirror and ever...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on September 23, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm tired of being run by fear. I've been thinking a lot about how limiting fear is. It fences us in on every side, taunting and terrorizing us, and we end up convinced that fear is reality.

It's not real. Fear is an important tool when it functions properly to keep us alive, but for everything else it's not only useless, but also harmful.

We develop fears slowly over time. When a shocking or upset...

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All That We Have

Posted by Julianne Harvey on September 16, 2014 at 12:30 PM Comments comments (0)

Most of my problems stem from focusing on what I lack instead of recognizing what I have. Fretting about what we are missing is a concern based in the future. Pulling our attention back to the here and now requires us to inhabit this moment to see all that is actually ours.

It's the difference between looking through the viewfinder of your camera when the image is blurry and then lightly touching the button...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on September 9, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Letting people down is a big trigger point for me. I hate to quit on anything, even if it's no longer working for me, because it engages buried feelings of worthlessness and shame.

Every one of us has these triggers. They are emotional springboards, vaulting us back into our childhoods where we formed concepts into cement so we could live inside of them and feel safe. I...

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Perception Can Be Changed

Posted by Julianne Harvey on September 2, 2014 at 3:00 PM Comments comments (0)

In a recent Writer's Digest article on pitching to agents and editors, this line by Tracey Barnes Priestley jumped out at me: "Stress is a matter of perception, and perception can be changed."

Our whole lives are a delicate balancing act between our perception and reality. It's far too easy to confuse the two. The bulk of our problems dwell in this space, and most of the time we are utterly unaware o...

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Love is Not a Service Contract

Posted by Julianne Harvey on August 25, 2014 at 8:25 PM Comments comments (0)

In a conversation with a friend right before I left for a 2 week vacation, she said, "You know that you don't owe people anything, right?"

This observation caught me by surprise. It left me feeling defenseless, vulnerable, even stupid, like everyone in the world knew something obvious that I was clueless about.

Generally speaking, we tend to have a str...

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Moving with the Current

Posted by Julianne Harvey on August 19, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

All choices carry consequences. We decide on something and then we must bear what is associated with that choice. Sometimes it's a loss (money, time, relationships, self-esteem) and other times we end up with a gain (success, reward, confidence, joy).

Pain is at one end of the consequence continuum and elation is at the other. But we get a little of everything in between as we make our choices in life. And ...

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Locked Rooms

Posted by Julianne Harvey on August 14, 2014 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (0)

Every one of us has hidden rooms, deep in our psyche; places we don't show to anyone and that includes ourselves. In counseling, I visualize this concept as a long hallway with a series of locked doors. When the time is right, I find the key to open one door. I summon my dormant courage, fighting the fear and dread rising in my throat, and push open the door.

Each of those private rooms has been sealed off ...

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Supporting Kids Through Pain

Posted by Julianne Harvey on August 5, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

How do you know when to intervene on behalf of your kids and when to let them face stress on their own? At the heart of this struggle is my desire to fix, to rescue, to save - when that is not a healthy instinct for me or for those I'm trying to liberate.

In theory, supporting kids through emotional pain is better than cutting off the source of the hurt. But why is it so tough on the parent? My old wounds m...

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Still There, Still There...Gone

Posted by Julianne Harvey on July 29, 2014 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (0)

My pastor is fond of the phrase, "The now and the not yet" to describe the tension we all live with between the present and the future. I would add in "the gone" to also incorporate the past.

I believe in synchronicity. Stuff shows up exactly when we are ready for it. Some call this 'life lessons'; I refer to it as 'getting knocked on my ass'.

We tend ...

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