Julianne Harvey

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Integrating

Posted by Julianne Harvey on May 20, 2015 at 2:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Like Don Draper in Sunday's Mad Men series finale, all of us must one day learn to integrate the disparate parts of ourselves. This involves coming to terms with our past: the versions of our personalities we have now upgraded or discarded, the things we cannot control, the gulf between who we are and who we want to be.


I'm not sure why I resisted this for so long. Maybe because I just wasn't ready to let go of the sheer injustice ...

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Words in the Forest

Posted by Julianne Harvey on May 12, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I am walking on a secluded trail, deep in the forest. I look up to see the tops of the trees swaying in the cool breeze. The leaves shudder and rearrange themselves. Each one appears impossibly green against the blue of the sky, broken up only by clouds as light as whipped cream, moving lazily ahead of me toward the horizon.


It's quiet. I hear the sound of my footsteps, the rustle of the wind, and a small hint of faraway birdsong. My mind...

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Crossing the Finish Line

Posted by Julianne Harvey on May 5, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

This weekend I went to a friend's house for a session with a psychic medium. I went because I wanted to see what she did and to decide for myself how valuable or offensive it might be.


I grew up in a conservative Christian environment with a thick layer of fear and secrecy around anything labelled "spiritual" or "mystical".


The further I've moved from the structure of my childhood religion (recently...

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Your Value Lives Inside of You

Posted by Julianne Harvey on April 28, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)



William came home from school last week and said, "Ripley told me I'm the smartest kid in the whole class." He sounded proud, a small smile on his face, his chest slightly puffed out.


My first instinct was to say, "That's wonderful; you are very smart" but thankfully I resisted the urge. I've been bu...

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Avoid Niceness

Posted by Julianne Harvey on April 21, 2015 at 1:20 PM Comments comments (0)

I just completed a short e-book called It's On You: Taking Responsibility for your Choices. It's meant to accompany a seminar I'm creating geared at middle school students.


One of the chapters is called Avoid Niceness. Until I wrote those words, I had no idea that niceness was an area to be avoided.


Until the last couple of years, I spent my life being nice. I worshipped at its altar. ...

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Say Yes to Adventure

Posted by Julianne Harvey on April 14, 2015 at 2:25 AM Comments comments (0)

Last week my husband had a business trip. Because it was spring break for the kids, we decided to tag along. This interrupted my pre-set plans, but lately the phrase, "Say yes to the adventure" has been ringing in my head. I decided to go for it instead of playing it safe.


We all know that life is short, but there is a wide gap between believing an adage in theory and practicing it in reality. For most of my life I've been good at ...

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For the Lonely

Posted by Julianne Harvey on April 7, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

This post is for those who live with an ache in the centre of their being; a longing for something out of their direct control. We are not lonely in the traditional sense, for we love and are loved by many, but we yearn for relationships to be whole that are irreparably broken.


Holidays are painful for those of us who have made hard relationship choices. The consequences of our decisions become magnified in the glaring light of happy fam...

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My Kid is Fine

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 31, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I came across this photo the other day of my son on his third birthday. The hope and joy in his expression squeezed my heart in an uncomfortable way. It brought back a flood of memories, most of them sad.




Not because there was anything wrong with him, but because so much was broken inside of me. One phrase stood out in my mind as I lo...

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Opting Out

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 24, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm working on opting out of competing with others. This is a work-in-progress, with varying levels of success, but the first step toward change is admitting we have a problem.


Competing with others is a sign that something is missing in us. We are trying to compensate for a sense of loss. It comes from a place of scarcity - a fear that we are not enough. It's as if success is a pie with a finite number of slices, and we rush in to elbow ...

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Investment

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 17, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm attempting to change the way I think about my relationships. I love the word "investment" because it reminds me that every moment I choose to spend with someone is an investment in the dynamic between us.


Getting intentional about my time and energy has been a long process, but an extremely rewarding one. Knowing that I can choose the people I want to invest in has empowered and enlightened me. I do not have to be friends with every p...

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