Julianne Harvey



The truth of who you really are is the firmest ground to stand on.

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Through our Fingers

Posted by Julianne Harvey on February 24, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Adrift. Lost. Unhinged. Afraid. When these words storm my mind, like soldiers invading a fortress, I know it falls to me to change the conversation. It's far too easy to end up paralyzed by inactivity, but it's not a state I can afford to remain in if I want to continue moving forward.

I wish I knew what the answer was in these murky, shadowy places. The world continues to spin on its axis, with day yielding to night in a predictable patt...

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What is Ours to Own

Posted by Julianne Harvey on February 17, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

We cannot feel things on behalf of our kids (or anyone else, for that matter). Each person must own his or her feelings. Stepping back to allow this process to unfold is insanely painful for me. A large part of my childhood involved taking on the emotions of others; an unhealthy practice that I've been unspooling (with varying levels of success) for the last few years.

Making a decision to stay out of the way when other people are hurting...

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Internal Earthquakes

Posted by Julianne Harvey on February 10, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

What if it was acceptable to fall apart and be a mess? To admit, to ourselves and others, that the transition between pretending to be fine and living in the world as our vulnerable, true selves was rougher than we'd care to acknowledge?

I find myself struggling with these questions. The space between who I used to be and who I am now is wide and deep. I feel regret about the people I've lost and the places I can't return to anymore. The ...

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What Would It Take?

Posted by Julianne Harvey on February 3, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I had lunch with one of my genius friends and she asked this question: "What would it take for you to feel like a success today?"

It stopped me in my tracks. I had been talking about all of the ways that I felt like a failure, because I have a high bar set for myself in my own imagination, and I'm not where I wanted to be in my personal timeline for my writing.

My lovely friend looked across the lun...

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The Best Sign of a Healthy Relationship...

Posted by Julianne Harvey on January 27, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I love this message. I think it's true. Every one of us is inundated by social media and its seductive invitation to compete, achieve and announce your position in the cultural rat race.

I find it hard enough to manage the voices in my own head without adding in every other person's inter...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on January 20, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

In the dead of winter, everything goes into a hibernation state. It's a time for reflection, quiet peace and solitude.

I love winter because it feels like a season of preparation. Spring is just around the corner, where new life blooms, but we wouldn't get spring if we didn't first experience the barrenness of winter.

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The Imitation Game

Posted by Julianne Harvey on January 13, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

"Sometimes it is the people who no one imagines anything of who do the things that no one can imagine." This quote from The Imitation Game, starring Benedict Cumberbatch and Keira Knightley, features heavily in the true life story of Alan Turing, the mathematical genius who invented the machine that broke the German's enigma code and helped the Allies win World War II.

It's a remarkably well-done movie, taking a set of historical f...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on January 6, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

It can be so damn hard to know what to do sometimes. I believe the answers that are available to us are best revealed when we approach them in stillness and calm. Hard-scrabbling and forcing solutions is a dead end, every time, but it seems to be my default setting in times of stress.

So much of life is comprised of mystery. I hate this with a passion that knocks me off-balance. It makes me want to weep, with an enormous lump at the base ...

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Looking Ahead

Posted by Julianne Harvey on December 30, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Like many people, I feel a vague sense of sadness when Christmas is over. So much buildup and anticipation goes into the season, and then BANG! just like that, it's over on December 26th.

Once I take down my trees and all of the decorations and lights (and reassure my depressed children that it will come again next year), my spirits begin to rise. We rapidly approach a fresh new year and I can start looking ahead. This process involves ho...

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Thank You For The Lessons

Posted by Julianne Harvey on December 23, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm practicing using a new phrase when I reflect on people or situations from my past: Thank you for the lessons. These five words have helped me change my perspective on old wounds and regrets.

Every person in our lives has something important to teach us. The ones who drive us crazy can help us develop patience. Those who repeatedly make questionable decisions can sharpen our ability to seek wise counsel before we implement chan...

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