Julianne Harvey



The truth of who you really are is the firmest ground to stand on.

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Yes Please & No Thanks

Posted by Julianne Harvey on November 25, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I just finished Amy Poehler's terrific new memoir, Yes Please, and I felt profoundly moved by her ideas around saying "yes please" to as many things as possible.

At the Oprah weekend in Seattle, this concept was phrased as "I can". Learning to say "I can" is one of the greatest lessons of my life, especially because I spent so many years using "I can't" as my default response.


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Disconnect from the Outcome

Posted by Julianne Harvey on November 18, 2014 at 9:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Boy, when we get chances to practice a new skill, we really get a lot of opportunities to try out what we are learning. It's horrible. It's uncomfortable. It tips us headfirst into the bottomless hole of vulnerability. And eventually, it ends up to be the greatest gift possible.

I went to Seattle last weekend for Oprah's The Life You Want tour. I gathered up a handful of girlfriends, organized accommodation...

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Showing Up

Posted by Julianne Harvey on November 10, 2014 at 9:35 AM Comments comments (0)

"I'm finally showing up in my own life." I said this to a group of friends the other day, and as I continue to mill it over in my mind, I'm amazed by how profoundly this statement has impacted me. 

When we go through the motions of being alive, but we aren't actually engaged in the minute-to-minute awareness required to be present and plugged-in, we miss out on the vital essence of humanity. Now that I have moved from fear and people...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on November 4, 2014 at 8:30 AM Comments comments (0)

When my eight-year-old son jumps into a pool, one of his favourite poses is the Turtleball. He runs and leaps, shrieking, "Turtleball!" as loud as possible, his scrawny arms wrapped around his equally spindly legs. He sinks down, then gently bobs to the surface of the water, his back rounded like a turtle's shell.

My instinct is to become a Turtleball when someone hurts me (or more accurately, when I perceive that I've been offended in so...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on October 28, 2014 at 9:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Expectations are tricky things. We all have them - to be human means to expect something at one time or another - but I believe there is a strong correlation between happiness and lowered expectations so I am determined to keep moving in this direction.

I wish it wasn't so damn hard. I spent way too many years of my life forecasting end results so not doing this leaves me feeling unmoored. But I know it's healthier to take it as it comes ...

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A Need to Grow

Posted by Julianne Harvey on October 21, 2014 at 9:30 AM Comments comments (0)

The right to change and evolve is one every human naturally possesses. The trouble comes when some of our relationships are not flexible enough to embrace these differences.

All sorts of reasons exist for this refusal to accept growth in another person. In my experience, I have seen that when someone feels threatened or uncomfortable because I am now different, they push back by applying pressure for me to return to the way I used to beha...

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Full Circle

Posted by Julianne Harvey on October 14, 2014 at 8:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Sometimes in this life, we get a chance to come full circle in an area of our experience, and take the opportunity to measure just how far we have come. I am having one of those rare times this week, on the stunning island of Maui.

Exactly seven years ago Jason and I came here for his work reward trip, to the same resort. Back then I was an entirely different person - living with a variety of masks in place to hide my true identity from m...

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Action and Reaction

Posted by Julianne Harvey on October 7, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Waiting is a character stretch for me. To be more succinct, it's not the waiting in general that bothers me, but rather waiting for someone else to act.

It always seems to come back to control. Growing up in an alcoholic home, control was king. Now that I'm an adult, I realize that I never had any real control of people or circumstances, but I felt safer and calmer if I had the illusion of authority.

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Charting A New Course

Posted by Julianne Harvey on September 30, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Over the summer, I made some tough decisions about church. Since I was a young child, I've anchored my spiritual experience around Sunday morning church attendance. It was a non-negotiable prerequisite in the evangelical Christian world I grew up in.

Recognizing that I have choices has been the greatest discovery of my life to this point. I want to tattoo those three liberating words across my forehead so I see them in the mirror and ever...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on September 23, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm tired of being run by fear. I've been thinking a lot about how limiting fear is. It fences us in on every side, taunting and terrorizing us, and we end up convinced that fear is reality.

It's not real. Fear is an important tool when it functions properly to keep us alive, but for everything else it's not only useless, but also harmful.

We develop fears slowly over time. When a shocking or upset...

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