Julianne Harvey

Author. Speaker. Movie Critic.


The truth of who you really are is the firmest ground to stand on.

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Your Value Lives Inside of You

Posted by Julianne Harvey on April 28, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

William came home from school last week and said, "Ripley told me I'm the smartest kid in the whole class." He sounded proud, a small smile on his face, his chest slightly puffed out.

My first instinct was to say, "That's wonderful; you are very smart" but thankfully I resisted the urge. I've been bu...

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Avoid Niceness

Posted by Julianne Harvey on April 21, 2015 at 1:20 PM Comments comments (0)

I just completed a short e-book called It's On You: Taking Responsibility for your Choices. It's meant to accompany a seminar I'm creating geared at middle school students.

One of the chapters is called Avoid Niceness. Until I wrote those words, I had no idea that niceness was an area to be avoided.

Until the last couple of years, I spent my life being nice. I worshipped at its altar. ...

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Say Yes to Adventure

Posted by Julianne Harvey on April 14, 2015 at 2:25 AM Comments comments (0)

Last week my husband had a business trip. Because it was spring break for the kids, we decided to tag along. This interrupted my pre-set plans, but lately the phrase, "Say yes to the adventure" has been ringing in my head. I decided to go for it instead of playing it safe.

We all know that life is short, but there is a wide gap between believing an adage in theory and practicing it in reality. For most of my life I've been good at ...

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For the Lonely

Posted by Julianne Harvey on April 7, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

This post is for those who live with an ache in the centre of their being; a longing for something out of their direct control. We are not lonely in the traditional sense, for we love and are loved by many, but we yearn for relationships to be whole that are irreparably broken.

Holidays are painful for those of us who have made hard relationship choices. The consequences of our decisions become magnified in the glaring light of happy fam...

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My Kid is Fine

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 31, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I came across this photo the other day of my son on his third birthday. The hope and joy in his expression squeezed my heart in an uncomfortable way. It brought back a flood of memories, most of them sad.

Not because there was anything wrong with him, but because so much was broken inside of me. One phrase stood out in my mind as I lo...

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Opting Out

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 24, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm working on opting out of competing with others. This is a work-in-progress, with varying levels of success, but the first step toward change is admitting we have a problem.

Competing with others is a sign that something is missing in us. We are trying to compensate for a sense of loss. It comes from a place of scarcity - a fear that we are not enough. It's as if success is a pie with a finite number of slices, and we rush in to elbow ...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 17, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm attempting to change the way I think about my relationships. I love the word "investment" because it reminds me that every moment I choose to spend with someone is an investment in the dynamic between us.

Getting intentional about my time and energy has been a long process, but an extremely rewarding one. Knowing that I can choose the people I want to invest in has empowered and enlightened me. I do not have to be friends with every p...

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I Can and I Will

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 10, 2015 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (0)

A friend posted this on her Facebook page: "Today is a great day. I can and I will." I read it on the same day that I revisited my journal from Oprah's The Life You Want tour, where I had circled the phrase "I can" as the one I wanted to begin using more regularly. I'm learning to pay close attention to this kind of synchronicity as it's trying to tell me something.

"I can" is a powerful phrase, but on its own it doesn't hav...

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What I Learned in Hawaii

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 3, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

We just returned from a 12-day vacation with some of Jason's family in Maui and Honolulu. Travel tends to increase my sense of anxiety as I'm not a confident flyer and struggle with the chaos that arises from large groups of people in a small space, but I was committed to the idea of relaxation and surrender on this trip.

For the most part, I succeeded. I felt a number of unsettled worries stop whirring like an overheated disc drive and g...

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Through our Fingers

Posted by Julianne Harvey on February 24, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Adrift. Lost. Unhinged. Afraid. When these words storm my mind, like soldiers invading a fortress, I know it falls to me to change the conversation. It's far too easy to end up paralyzed by inactivity, but it's not a state I can afford to remain in if I want to continue moving forward.

I wish I knew what the answer was in these murky, shadowy places. The world continues to spin on its axis, with day yielding to night in a predictable patt...

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