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Doubly Good to You

Posted by Julianne Harvey on July 22, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Amy Grant has an old song called "Doubly Good to You" with this lyric, "If you find a love that's tender, if you find someone who's true, thank the Lord, he's been doubly good to you."

This line rings true for me as we approach our wedding anniversary. I think back more than a decade and a half ago, when we were young, hopeful and madly in love - embarking on the perils of life together as a married couple....

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When I Loved Myself Enough

Posted by Julianne Harvey on July 15, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

"When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn't healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits - anything that kept me small. My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving."

This quote by Kim McMillen brought enormous comfort to me when I read it on Project Happiness' Facebook page. It calmed something in my spirit that has been distressed for some time. It was like ...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on July 8, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Getting away from the notion that I must work hard in order to earn leisure is a lifelong job for me. Perhaps it is enough to simply put more distance between myself an this faulty idea, every single day I am alive.

We are at the beginning of the summer, and last year was the first time I really experimented with the concept of resting. Before that, every season blended together. I was perpetually behind t...

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Not My Circus

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 30, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I love the Polish proverb, "Not my circus. Not my monkeys." It's a playful way of saying, "This is not my problem."

The expectations of other people tend to be my circus. I spend an inordinate amount of time worrying about things that should be none of my damn business. I am better at this than I used to be, but it's depressing how far I still have to go to be considered healthy at it.

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 24, 2014 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Transitions are hard. When you allow yourself to feel the pain of letting go of one season in order to move into another, you sense way down in your gut just how much it costs you.

Nothing in life stays the same for long. We evolve, change, grow. We move from youth to old age. Many times I wish I could halt or intervene the process of aging--of transitioning from young and vibrant to middle-aged and eventua...

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Don't Blame the Garbage Can

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 17, 2014 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (0)

We have a new saying in our family: Don't blame the garbage can. After dinner one evening, Ava was scraping the remnants of her spaghetti into the garbage. She pressed on the foot pedal but the lid failed to open all the way so the spaghetti ended up on the floor and the outside of the can.

Ava got upset and said, "It's not my fault - the foot thing didn't work right and now it's a big mess!" We aske...

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Be Better Than the Gap

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 10, 2014 at 10:40 AM Comments comments (0)

New ideas tend to threaten anyone who feels safe and comfortable in an established routine. Change is frightening and it stretches everyone past their breaking point.

I try to remember that every person is at a different stage of their life journey. What brings anxiety to a person today might offer excitement and joy in a year or two. Not one person in this world is stuck in any one place for long. We are a...

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All In

Posted by Julianne Harvey on June 3, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

A life well lived is full of risk-taking. It never comes easy, but it is worth the rewards. How often do you ask yourself this question, "Am I all in?"

Many times we play with only a portion of our hearts in the game. We hold back, withdraw, protect our most vulnerable parts - hoping to stay safe from rejection, pain and loss.

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Hope is an Inside Job

Posted by Julianne Harvey on May 27, 2014 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Hope does not depend on our circumstances. We can manufacture hope in the middle of pure despair, and over time we discover that it has been sustaining us when we thought we could not continue.

A lot of people stay trapped because they believe that hope is tied to what happens to us. I used to be a part of this camp. In order to improve my attitude, I would put the bulk of my energy and time into altering m...

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Struggle is the Path

Posted by Julianne Harvey on May 20, 2014 at 10:40 AM Comments comments (0)

It's easy to get into trouble when we assign pain to a scale and put ours at the very top. Everyone hurts. All humans experience frailty at one point or another, and it's difficult to practice compassion when we are convinced that our pain trumps the misfortune of others.

The saying, "Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle" works well here. I know I'm veering into...

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