Julianne Harvey

Author. Speaker. Movie Critic.


The truth of who you really are is the firmest ground to stand on.

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My Kid is Fine

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 31, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I came across this photo the other day of my son on his third birthday. The hope and joy in his expression squeezed my heart in an uncomfortable way. It brought back a flood of memories, most of them sad.

Not because there was anything wrong with him, but because so much was broken inside of me. One phrase stood out in my mind as I lo...

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Opting Out

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 24, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm working on opting out of competing with others. This is a work-in-progress, with varying levels of success, but the first step toward change is admitting we have a problem.

Competing with others is a sign that something is missing in us. We are trying to compensate for a sense of loss. It comes from a place of scarcity - a fear that we are not enough. It's as if success is a pie with a finite number of slices, and we rush in to elbow ...

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Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 17, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I'm attempting to change the way I think about my relationships. I love the word "investment" because it reminds me that every moment I choose to spend with someone is an investment in the dynamic between us.

Getting intentional about my time and energy has been a long process, but an extremely rewarding one. Knowing that I can choose the people I want to invest in has empowered and enlightened me. I do not have to be friends with every p...

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I Can and I Will

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 10, 2015 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (0)

A friend posted this on her Facebook page: "Today is a great day. I can and I will." I read it on the same day that I revisited my journal from Oprah's The Life You Want tour, where I had circled the phrase "I can" as the one I wanted to begin using more regularly. I'm learning to pay close attention to this kind of synchronicity as it's trying to tell me something.

"I can" is a powerful phrase, but on its own it doesn't hav...

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What I Learned in Hawaii

Posted by Julianne Harvey on March 3, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

We just returned from a 12-day vacation with some of Jason's family in Maui and Honolulu. Travel tends to increase my sense of anxiety as I'm not a confident flyer and struggle with the chaos that arises from large groups of people in a small space, but I was committed to the idea of relaxation and surrender on this trip.

For the most part, I succeeded. I felt a number of unsettled worries stop whirring like an overheated disc drive and g...

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Through our Fingers

Posted by Julianne Harvey on February 24, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Adrift. Lost. Unhinged. Afraid. When these words storm my mind, like soldiers invading a fortress, I know it falls to me to change the conversation. It's far too easy to end up paralyzed by inactivity, but it's not a state I can afford to remain in if I want to continue moving forward.

I wish I knew what the answer was in these murky, shadowy places. The world continues to spin on its axis, with day yielding to night in a predictable patt...

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What is Ours to Own

Posted by Julianne Harvey on February 17, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

We cannot feel things on behalf of our kids (or anyone else, for that matter). Each person must own his or her feelings. Stepping back to allow this process to unfold is insanely painful for me. A large part of my childhood involved taking on the emotions of others; an unhealthy practice that I've been unspooling (with varying levels of success) for the last few years.

Making a decision to stay out of the way when other people are hurting...

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Internal Earthquakes

Posted by Julianne Harvey on February 10, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

What if it was acceptable to fall apart and be a mess? To admit, to ourselves and others, that the transition between pretending to be fine and living in the world as our vulnerable, true selves was rougher than we'd care to acknowledge?

I find myself struggling with these questions. The space between who I used to be and who I am now is wide and deep. I feel regret about the people I've lost and the places I can't return to anymore. The ...

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What Would It Take?

Posted by Julianne Harvey on February 3, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I had lunch with one of my genius friends and she asked this question: "What would it take for you to feel like a success today?"

It stopped me in my tracks. I had been talking about all of the ways that I felt like a failure, because I have a high bar set for myself in my own imagination, and I'm not where I wanted to be in my personal timeline for my writing.

My lovely friend looked across the lun...

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The Best Sign of a Healthy Relationship...

Posted by Julianne Harvey on January 27, 2015 at 10:30 AM Comments comments (0)

I love this message. I think it's true. Every one of us is inundated by social media and its seductive invitation to compete, achieve and announce your position in the cultural rat race.

I find it hard enough to manage the voices in my own head without adding in every other person's inter...

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